Touchstone Life Coaching

Beliefs take root in our minds. Beliefs effect our feelings. Feelings often dictate the choices that we make. What we believe also impacts the actions that we take or fail to take. Sean Stephenson has written a very informative and educationally inspirational book, “Get Off Your “But”.

Those who are verbally, sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abused in childhood often end up in abusive relationships and either suffering more abuse or being abusive themselves. Why? Patterns and unresolved and unfinished business are two of the main reasons.

The truth about the focus on the abuser is the victim needs to focus much more on him/herself and what he/she needs. The victim needs to get clear about what action he/she needs to take and how to be safe. This is more important than the self-defeating and self-negating focus on the abuser.

What is on your mind, that is to say, what you focus on, is what will shape and justify your experience of yourself, of others, and of life. More people are becoming increasingly aware that how and what they think creates their experience. However, for many who are in great emotional pain the connection might not be so apparent.